The Princess And The Frog

"Kissing every Frog because you don't know which one would be your prince"

The most random thoughts pop into my head at odd times!

I started writing this piece knowing that I have both male and female readers but somewhere along the line I got into my "girl power" mode and I focused on women. I apologise in advance this.

Who remembers "The Frog Prince" or "The Princess and The Frog"? They are cartoons that basically have the same plot. A naive Princess befriends a frog, the frog eventually transforms into a handsome prince and they lived happily ever after. There are different versions of this story, the most interesting version being the one that tells us that the princess kisses the frog and he transforms into a prince, breaking the spell that a witch had cast on him that could only be broken by a kiss of love.

So, we know the background and I'm sure we can relate it to the quote I started with. I would like to ask some questions;
Is it okay to kiss (I do not use kiss in the  literal sense) frogs till we eventually find the one that is our Prince?
Should we just wait for the frog to sort himself out with the witch, transform to a prince then find us himself?
Can we just let another person kiss the frog then we can go ahead and snatch marry the Prince?

People,  I need answers. I'm serious.

The process of moving from frog to frog is what I call dating.
I hate dating.
Of course I love fancy dinners, walks on the beach, going to the cinemas, dressing up, looking on fleek... etcetera, etcetera.
What I do not like is doing all these things and simultaneously getting to know someone. I'd rather do these activities with someone I already know, someone I'm comfortable with and I daresay, someone I love. I would pick being a couch potato to sitting across a stranger discussing  likes and dislikes, at least my pillow won't ask me why I don't like pasta.
Just imagine a lunch date I went for, note "lunch" not "dinner" and that was the first time I would meet up with this person. I had barely finished my lunch when the frog young man asked if I would follow him to his flat at Lekki...because I told him that I was homeless. Mtcheew. What is it with Lagos boys and the fact that they brandish their flats in Lekki as some kind of trophy?
Another frog young man I had just met told me to come and spend the weekend in his house so he could get to know me better.
Please, for those of you that know me on here,  do I have an inscription on my forehead that reads " homeless, needs a flat in Lekki"?
Anyway, I have not come here to tell stories of woe. I have actually been on dates with gentlemen that conducted themselves well.

My point is this, whether you have decided to kiss every frog or wait for your prince to find you himself, you must understand that no matter how much you kiss try, some frogs will always remain frogs and princes will always be princes regardless of how "froggy" they may look now. You must be discerning about who you give your heart to and who you let into your life. Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove because this world is full of frogs in princes' clothing. Do not cast your pearl to swines!

• If he disrespects you, talks down or looks down on you,  he is a frog. 
• If he abuses you physically, emotionally and any other way, he is a frog and a toad.
• If he cannot stay faithful to you, he is a frog, toad, crocodile and hippopotamus. 
• If he insists that he must test drive you (have sex with you) before he makes a commitment to you, he is a frog. Please keep it moving, you are not a tokunbo car that needs to tested before final purchase.
• If he doesn't actively pursue you and show any interest in you, he is not your prince. If you are ALWAYS texting, calling and IMing him first, he is not your prince. This particular one irritates my soul! If a man is interested in you, he will pursue you. I understand that we are independent women and we go after what we want, but if you have shown a man that you are interested in him (trust me a man knows when a woman likes him) and he still doesn't make a move, he is not interested in you. Sè fini! Do not force yourself on someone that doesn't want to be with you. 
• If he gives you conditions for him to love you or makes you feel as though he is doing you a favour by committing to you, he is definitely not your prince. Please drop this one back in the pond where belongs so he can croak like the frog that he is.

I am not an expert in spotting frogs and princes, I just listed out some obvious characteristics that I have observed.
To any lady reading this, know that you are priceless, dont be afraid to wear your crown and never let it slip because you are a Queen inside and out. Treat yourself like a jewel and do not allow anyfrogone treat you any less because you were bought with a price; the precious blood of Jesus!



1Cor:6vs20. " For you were bought with a price, therefore honour God in your body "


P.S I really need answers to the questions I asked earlier. Please hit the comments section and let me know your thoughts.


Love and Light
xoxo.



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